L: The only arguments against same-sex marriage are religious.
C: First of all, there are plenty of arguments against it that have nothing at all to do with religion. Second, what you are calling “religious arguments” are to demonstrate that individuals have sincere, religious objections to same-sex marriage and therefore making laws that force them to accept it would be unconstitutional. Third, that legalizing same-sex marriage would force the religious views of a minority on the majority that opposes those views is unconstitutional. Fourth, legalizing same-sex marriage would require granting additional power to an already power-mad government. Fifth, legalizing same-sex marriage would be the first step in broadening the definition of marriage to the point that it would ultimately mean nothing, and we already have examples of people wanting this done, and people who freely admit that they oppose the institution of marriage.
L: Gays should have equal rights to marry
C: First of all, they do, anyone can marry someone of the opposite sex, including homosexuals. Second, since a homosexual relationship is not the same as a heterosexual relationship, on may levels, claiming their right to marry someone of the same gender is not asking for equality. You are, in essence, asking for apples to be called oranges.
L: By denying gays the right to marry you are forcing your religious view on them.
C: First of all homosexuals have the exact same rights as heterosexuals, they can marry someone of the opposite sex if they want. Second, there are numerous arguments against same-sex marriage that have nothing to do with religion. Third, the only way same-sex marriage can be made legal is if the Federal government is empowered to force compliance upon every state, county, city, business, church and individual, so legalizing same-sex marriage would be forcing the religious views of Liberals and some homosexuals (not all favor SSM) on the rest of the nation.
L: Marriage predates Christianity, so Christians have no right claiming the word.
C: First, notice how “religion” has now become “Christianity” in spite of the fact that most world religions view marriage as between a man and a woman. Second, there is no evidence that the concept of marriage predates the concept of religion. Third, most Americans, not just Christians, oppose redefining marriage.
L: Canada has been recognizing same sex marriages for a while now, and so far society has not collapsed.
C: Many people have cancer yet are still alive, thus, according to your logic, proves cancer is harmless.
L: Civil Unions do not grant the same legal rights as marriage.
C: Civil Unions are a legal vehicle that grant as much or as little as the law creating it allows. If they are inadequate, then the solution is to reword the law defining Civil Unions, not to redefine marriage.
L: History has shown all kinds of warped definitions of marriage, from slavery to polygamy to people getting divorced days after getting married.
C: Yet throughout that Traditional Marriage remained a concrete, solid concept. The examples you have given were and still are viewed as aberrations of what marriage was and is meant to be. They are not co-equal definitions but perversions of the core concept, just as rape, pedophilia or masturbation are not normal versions of sex.
L: We live in a secular society and religious people have to accept that and abide by secular authority.
C: Secular is a word used to define those people who have no recognized “religious” beliefs other than a materialistic world view, therefore it in itself is a religious viewpoint. We do not live in a secular society and our government is not a secular government. For it to be so it would need to establish the religious viewpoint of secularism as the official religious viewpoint of the government, and the Constitution expressly forbids the government from establishing a state religion.
L: How would legalizing same-sex marriage hurt you?
C: Liberals have already, amply demonstrated their desire to use any and every means available to them to force others to submit to their idea of what should be allowed or forbidden. They have used the courts to attempt to force religious people to violate their sincerely held religious beliefs. Below are just some examples of this. legalizing same-sex marriage would then be like handing a gun to an angry man…
L: This is the same as when inter-racial marriages were outlawed.
C: No, when inter-racial marriages were outlawed, the inter-racial couples who got married were put in jail, and sometimes lynched. All that would happen, currently, to homosexuals that claimed to be married, without bothering to set up the readily available legal devices for establishing the same same access that marriage does, is that they simply wouldn’t be considered married. That you can’t be considered the parent of your partner’s child because you failed to go through the legal process of adoption, is not the same thing as being sent to prison, and risking getting lynched on the way.
L: Since homosexuality is not a choice, it is discrimination to not allow them to marry.
C: There is no valid evidence that homosexuality is anything but a choice. Spurious and fraudulent “scientific” studies sponsored by activist groups only demonstrate that there exists no real science behind the assertion, or they wouldn’t need to create fake studies.
L: Homosexual behavior is evident in hundreds, if not thousands, of species, proving that it’s natural.
C: Then it would be no problem at all for you to list one, single example of an animal, in normal health, that has demonstrated long-term sexual actions towards the same sex, that are not typical dominance behavior. Keywords there are “NORMAL HEALTH”, “SEXUAL ACTIONS”, “LONG-TERM”, “NOT DOMINANCE BEHAVIOR”. See the “studies” you’ve been told that show rampant homosexuality among animals include non-sexual bonding (not homosexual), dominance behavior (not homosexual), sporadic behavior (not homosexuality) and /or animals suffering from either a physical problem or some form of stress (not homosexual). When you weed out all those, you have no examples at all.
L: Civil Unions amounts to “separate but equal” which is unconstitutional.
C: How is it separate? The idea of “Separate but equal” referred to segregation, in the word “separate” literally meant separate. So how in the word are homosexuals joined by civil unions separated from anyone else, because they aren’t allowed to call it “marriage”?
L: Nobody chooses to be gay.
C: Can someone choose the food they prefer? If so at what point did most Chinese people decide to prefer Chinese food? At what age did Mexican people make the conscious choice to prefer Mexican food? Unless you are a racist, then you’ll have to acknowledge that those food choices are a result of the environment they were brought up in, not genetics. Neither is sexual preference genetic, but the product of environment. And as with food preference, it is entirely possible for someone to decide to change their preference.
L: Homosexuals are persecuted so much that it’s inconceivable that they would choose such a lifestyle.
C: First, the vast majority of homosexuals that are murdered are murdered by OTHER homosexuals, not heterosexuals. The vast majority of homosexuals that are assaulted are assaulted by OTHER homosexuals, not by heterosexuals. Second, if being picked on were really such a problem, why do so many homosexuals then go out of their way to flaunt their lifestyle in public, going so far as to hold parades where they prance down the street in as flamboyant and outrageous a costumes as they can find?
L: You can’t compare homosexuality to polygamy, pedophilia or bestiality.
C: It is only by severing marriage from any societal, historical and religious context can you even begin to make an argument that same-sex unions should have the same standing as traditional marriage, and once you’ve done that, then you have tossed out any argument that would keep polygamy, pedophilia and bestiality as separate subjects. (If we can kill and eat animals, why can’t someone marry one?)
L: Homosexuals are a persecuted minority.
C: As an alleged “persecuted” minority, homosexuals earn more per capita, have more political clout per capita and on the average hold higher positions in companies than heterosexuals. If that’s discrimination, then where do I go to be discriminated against?
L: When did you choose to be straight/heterosexual?
C: Preferences by their very nature are not conscious choices. When did you choose to like pizza? Not when did you discover you liked pizza, but when did you make a conscious choice that you would like pizza? You didn’t but liking pizza is not a genetic imperative, therefore the lack of making a conscious choice is not proof of a genetic predisposition or a genetic imperative.